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I started writing because I find speaking what I want to say hard. I don't think fast, I think deep and that is much more suited to wrting than any other medium for me. I write them, not just for myself, but for the kind of man I know exists: quiet, consistent, emotionally grounded, and often misunderstood. This space is a response to that silence.
Here you’ll find essays about modern masculinity, emotional responsibility, fatherhood, and the often unseen cost of staying true to your values in a world that rarely thanks you for it.
It’s not a guidebook. It’s not a backlash. Just the truth, spoken quietly.
This is for the men who stay. For the fathers who carry more than they say. For the women trying to understand them. For anyone drawn to integrity over performance.
If you've ever felt unseen while showing up fully, you're not alone here.
I'm a father of five and the co-founder of a family-run business on the North Devon coast. Over the past few years, I’ve been navigating the emotional complexity of separation from my wife of 22 years, a journey that has required deep patience, honesty, and more inner work than I ever expected.
I’ve become much closer to 4 of my 5 children, kept our business alive, and done my best to show up with integrity through it all, even when it’s been hard, unclear, or unrewarded.
I’m not writing from the end of the road. I’m still in it, figuring things out as I go. These essays are part of that process.
I believe that strength doesn’t always roar. That love isn’t loud. That being a man today asks more than it ever has, and gives fewer maps to follow. But I also believe in the quiet revolution of men showing up anyway.
If any of this speaks to you, stick around. There’s more to say, and you’re welcome in the conversation.
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